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Learning the Hard Way: A Personal Story
Many years ago, I found myself in a courtroom due to a restraining order I had placed on a couple of individuals. At just 26 years old, I foolishly believed I could represent myself, despite having zero legal experience. Unsurprisingly, it didn’t go well, and I left feeling like a complete failure. Why? Because I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t—a lawyer.
This lesson extends far beyond the courtroom. Too often, people try to be someone they’re not, thinking it will lead to success, admiration, or acceptance. But in reality, this approach backfires, leading to frustration, failure, and insecurity. True success comes from authenticity—owning who you are and leveraging your unique strengths.
The Trap of Trying to Be Someone Else
From business leaders to athletes, many individuals make the mistake of imitating others rather than embracing their own identity. Rising coaches attempt to mimic Nick Saban, and young entrepreneurs try to act like Elon Musk, yet they fail because they aren’t those people. Similarly, many fall into society’s trap of trying to fit a certain image—whether through extreme dieting, plastic surgery, or altering their personalities—only to find themselves feeling even more lost and insecure.
But when we embrace who we truly are, we naturally excel. Authenticity is what draws people in, inspires them, and earns their trust. It is what makes leaders, artists, and athletes truly stand out.
Examples of Authenticity in Action
Athletes Who Trust Their Game
As a high school baseball coach, I had the privilege of mentoring some incredibly talented players—so talented, in fact, that MLB scouts would line the stands to watch them play. Yet, every time these scouts showed up, my players would tense up, overthink their performance, and try too hard to impress. They started swinging harder, throwing faster, and forcing plays, only to perform worse than ever.
What these athletes didn’t realize was that the scouts weren’t looking for a fabricated version of them. They wanted to see their natural, raw talent—the unique skills that set them apart. When the players finally relaxed and just played their game, their true potential shined, and that’s what caught the scouts’ attention.
Children and the Joy of Being Themselves
One of the most beautiful examples of authenticity comes from children. Watch a child play, and you’ll see pure, uninhibited joy. They don’t care how they look while dancing or whether they’re eating ice cream in the messiest way possible—they are fully present, fully themselves, and having the time of their lives.
Adults, on the other hand, often lose this natural confidence. We become self-conscious, worry about judgment, and put on a facade to gain approval. But the truth is, the people who truly succeed and find happiness are those who, like children, embrace who they are without fear.
The Wisdom of the Elderly
Older individuals also embody authenticity in a remarkable way. They know people are watching, but they simply don’t care. They dance, laugh, and live their lives on their own terms, fully aware that they have nothing to prove. There’s something incredibly powerful about this mindset—when you stop worrying about fitting in, you start thriving.
Embrace Your Authenticity for True Success
So why do we try so hard to be someone else? Why do we chase an image of success that isn’t even our own? The reality is, people don’t want a copy of someone else—they want the real you. Your company, your team, your boss, your family—they all want the unique individual that only you can be.
So instead of imitating others, take inspiration from them, learn from them, and adapt strategies that work for you. But make them your own. Because the only way to achieve true success is by being unapologetically, confidently, and authentically you.
Final Thought
From now on, stop trying to fit into someone else’s mold. Instead, invest time in truly knowing yourself. Fall in love with who you were created to be, and then share that person with the world. The moment you embrace your authenticity is the moment you step into your true potential—and that’s when the real magic happens.