In today’s world of comparison and perfectionism, it’s easy to feel like what we bring to the table isn’t enough. But the truth is, whether you’re a coach, parent, leader, or entrepreneur, all anyone really wants from you—is all you’ve got.
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Coaching from Strength, Not Comparison
As a coach, the greatest athletes I ever worked with weren’t the ones trying to mimic someone else. They were the ones who brought everything they had—raw talent, effort, and attitude—without apology. I didn’t want them to play like someone else. I wanted them to use their God-given skills to the fullest. And when they did, we were tough to beat.
Take Olympic swimmer Katie Ledecky as an example. She doesn’t have the longest wingspan or the most “perfect” stroke mechanics, but she trains relentlessly and swims with precision, passion, and her own unique rhythm. That’s what makes her world-class. Not imitation—authentic excellence.
Leading with Authenticity
When I led a team of educators, my goal wasn’t for everyone to teach like me. I wanted them to teach like them—their way, with their voice, their personality, and their strengths. The result? A department full of empowered teachers making a real impact on student learning, each in their own way.
This principle holds true in the corporate world too. Consider Satya Nadella, CEO of Microsoft. He didn’t try to be the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. He led with empathy, a focus on collaboration, and his own leadership style—which helped transform Microsoft’s culture and business.
The Danger of Underestimating Yourself
Too many of us spend valuable time focused on what we lack. We think we’re not smart enough, fast enough, creative enough, or experienced enough. That kind of thinking leads to hesitation, self-doubt, and missed opportunities.
But the reality is this: most parents didn’t have all the answers when they started raising kids. Most leaders had no idea how to lead at the beginning. And most business owners launched without knowing everything about how to run a business. They just started with what they had—and figured out the rest along the way.
Think about Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. She started with a $5,000 investment and zero business experience. What she did have was creativity, grit, and belief in her product. That was enough to build a billion-dollar brand.
Focus on What You Have
The key isn’t perfection—it’s participation. Show up. Be all in. Use what you’ve been given. If you’re a runner—run. If you’re a creator—create. If you’re an organizer—organize. If you’re a leader—lead. But whatever you do, do it with everything you’ve got.
Final Thought: You Are Already Enough
You don’t need someone else’s skillset, resume, or approval. You already have what it takes to make a difference—in your family, your career, your team, or your community. Stop trying to become someone else, and start becoming the best version of you. That’s where real impact—and real fulfillment—lives.